Friday, 24 November 2017

Gratitude to Overcome Boredom, Difficulties, Complaining, & Feeling Overwhelmed

By Leo Babauta

As many give thanks for what's in their lives this week, we might look at how to go deeper with gratitude.

"Gratitude" seems like a trite and even perhaps boring topic to many — we all know we should be grateful.

And yet, there are ways that we aren't cultivating gratitude … and our lives could be much easier, even richer, if we did use gratitude in these deeper ways.

Let's take a few examples.

Boredom

I was talking to a friend recently about how she doesn't like to stay in stillness and quiet, because it feels boring. She realizes this probably isn't good for her, as she often feels the need to move, to keep busy. And she'd like to learn to be more present, slow down at times.

The answer to boredom is gratitude.

Let's think about a situation: you turn off your phone, get away from the computer, and go sit outside with no book, no device, no one to talk to, nothing to do.

You just sit there.

How useful is that? How interesting? How productive? You might answer "not at all" to these questions, and it might seem boring. But I believe that's because we're not 1) paying close enough attention, and 2) appreciating the gift of that moment.

If I'm sitting alone with nothing to do, I might have the urge to get up and go do something, or reach for my phone. But what if, instead, I could pay attention to how my body feels, the texture of my breath, the light all around me, the nature sitting right in front of my face, the sounds of the world busy in activity. The vibrant colors, the life that's struggling to survive and thrive. The feeling of just being alive.

The closer I pay attention, the more I might realize what a gift this is. The more I might appreciate the preciousness of it all.

Gratitude trumps boredom, if we let it.

Difficulties

We usually think of difficulties as something we don't like, and they cause us unhappiness: a difficult person we're dealing with, the loss of a job, struggling with a health issue, losing a loved one.

And it's true, these are not things we normally think of as "good." I'm not claiming we should rejoice at having these problems.

But is there a way we can find gratitude for them, nonetheless? Is there a way to see them as a gift?

Gratitude can be found even in our struggles:

  1. When we're dealing with a difficult person, we can be grateful for having other people in our lives, for being alive in the first place, for having someone to practice being in a relationship with (including coworker and family relationships), for having a way to practice being better at patience and communication. We can think of this person as our teacher, who is unwittingly helping us to get stronger and to grow as a person.
  2. If we lose our job, this can be very difficult … but we can also find gratitude that we had a job in the first place, even if only for awhile. We can be grateful that we have some savings and/or a network of family to help us (or perhaps we can lean on strangers to help). We can find gratitude for the opportunity to start afresh, to reinvent ourselves, to push into the discomfort of getting good at interviewing and learning new skills and starting a new career. We can find gratitude for the opportunity to grow, even in the midst of pain.
  3. Struggles with health are never fun, and can often be very painful and debilitating. I'm not claiming this is good. But perhaps the pain can be mediated by a sense of gratitude of being alive. Of having loved ones who might help us. Of being able to feel pain, perhaps of having hearing and sight and the ability to taste. We take these other things for granted because we're focusing on the part we don't like. We might even find gratitude for the chance to get good at meditating on pain, which is a powerful way to grow.
  4. Losing a loved one is painful, of course. But can we be grateful we had the gift of this person in our lives at all? My father, for example, was a real pain in the ass sometimes, but I'm so grateful to have had his inappropriate jokes, his passion for life, his art, his loving heart, his music, his smiling face, in my life. I got 40+ years of him, and that was an absolute gift. His death also reminds me not to take my other loved ones for granted, and each time I find gratitude for my other family members, and my good friends, and all of you … I have his death to thank for that.

Difficulties are not easy to find gratitude for … but they can become incredible paths of growth and learning, if we see the lesson in them. If we start to see everything as our teacher, especially the pain and struggle.

Complaining

Many of us have the mental habit of complaining — about a situation, about another person. We might not even realize we're doing it, but everytime we feel a bit of resentment, this is a form of complaining. And it's a good way to waste our lives.

Gratitude is the antidote for resentment, irritation, frustration and complaining.

Each time you notice yourself feeling resentment, or complaining, notice that you have a story in your head that's causing the feeling of resentment. Notice that you're letting this storyline fill your head. And then find a way to be grateful.

Drop the habit of resentment and complaining each time you notice it. Choose the gratitude habit instead. See what a difference it can make.

Feeling Overwhelmed

Many days we can feel stressed and overwhelmed, especially in the holiday season when we add social events, shopping, family gatherings, cooking and decorating to our already busy lives.

How can we deal with this feeling of overwhelm?

By being grateful for everything in our lives that's overwhelming us. By cherishing each thing in our todo list, each person making a request by text or email, each event that's stressing us out. Each of these is an absolute gift, and to be overwhelmed is to complain about these gifts. To find appreciation for each one of the gifts is to let go of the stress and to find the love in the chaos instead.



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Thursday, 23 November 2017

Holiday Gift Guide 2017

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Once again, 'tis the season for rampant consumerism! Yes, it's time to brighten your loved one's faces by giving them awesome stuff. And with my annual holiday gift guide, you'll find gifts that fit both your budget AND your buddies' tastes—that is, assuming they love exactly the same things that I do. Plus, with the space-age techno-power of online shopping, you don't even have to leave the comfort of your couch to do so!

Just like every year, I've compiled a list of things that have brought real joy to our lives. You won't find anything here that I was paid to endorse despite not having tried—in fact, I personally bought, own, use, and love every single item in this Holiday Gift Guide. After all, if it's not something worth spending my own money on, I shouldn't be recommending it, right? (Full disclosure: Although I'm not paid to endorse any of the stuff in this Gift Guide, if you follow my affiliate links to purchase them, I do get a small percentage as a commission without costing you an extra penny.)

Ready to lighten your wallet? This year, I'm going to start by hawking my own awesome products, and then I'll tell you about other crazy-fun holiday gift ideas!

READY OR NOT! COOKBOOK

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Yes, I'm totally biased, but I truly believe that the bestest holiday present you can give yourself and your loved ones is our newest cookbook, Ready or Not! Our book is all about making healthy Paleo home cooking a breeze, no matter if there's time to prepare or just minutes to spare. Whether you're a fastidious planner or a last-minute improviser, you'll find plenty of deliciously nourishing options, from make-ahead feasts and treats to lightning-fast leftover makeovers and make-now meals. Presented in our trademark comic book style, Ready or Not!'s step-by-step recipes, photos, and meal plans make cooking a habit you'll never want to break.

Henry and I poured our hearts and souls into this book, testing each and every recipe on our family, shooting every one of the 2,000+ photographs in our home kitchen, meticulously drawing every illustration, and designing and laying out every page.

And our loyal readers have responded by swooping up the entire first printing! Since it hit bookstores in August, Ready or Not! has become a New York Times bestseller, and hit #1 on both the Wall Street Journal and Publisher's Weekly bestseller lists for Hardcover Nonfiction. Our book made it to the Semifinals of Goodreads' Choice Awards in the Food & Cookbooks category. And Amazon recently named it one of the 15 best books of the year in Cooking & Wine!

Ready or Not! is available wherever books are sold (in the U.S. and all over the world!)—but this holiday season, we've partnered with our local independent bookstore, Books Inc., to offer signed and personalized copies of our cookbook! If you'd like for me to inscribe a personal note to you or someone special to you, just click this link to order Ready or Not! from Books Inc. At checkout, make sure you fill out the Order Comments section at the bottom to let me know who you'd like me to make the book out to. I'll even make sure to throw in some free exclusive Nom Nom Paleo swag, too! Just place your order by December 14th at 11:59 am Pacific to guarantee delivery by Christmas!

Buy a signed and personalized copy from Books Inc. here!

(By the way, if you pals don't yet have a copy of my first cookbook, Nom Nom Paleo: Food for Humans, grab one for them, too!)

READY OR NOT! WALL CALENDAR

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If you like our cookbooks, you'll definitely dig our 2018 wall calendar.

With healthy recipes presented in a deliciously fun style, this 2018 wall calendar will inspire you to cook all year round. This eye-catching companion to our new Ready or Not! cookbook features cheeky cartoons and a different Paleo recipe each month, ranging from hearty suppers to easy snacks and sides. Best of all, this colorful calendar also includes dozens of stickers (featuring cartoon versions of me and my family—including Ollie's stuffed cat!) to keep you motivated throughout the year. Hang this on your wall, and Ready or Not! will make cooking a habit you'll never want to break!

Buy our calendar from Amazon here!

MAGIC MUSHROOM POWDER

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Never tried my Magic Mushroom Powder? It's one of the most potent flavor boosters in my kitchen arsenal—an umami-packed seasoning salt that made The Oregonian's Test Kitchen "rethink everything [they]'ve been doing in the kitchen." Magic Mushroom Powder can be used in place of salt in virtually any dish, adding an immediate flavor punch to everything from scrambled eggs and ground meat to roasted veggies and chicken wings. I always keep Magic Mushroom Powder stocked in my kitchen, and you can, too! Make it yourself using this recipe—and give it away as stocking stuffers to your favorite foodies.

Too lazy to D.I.Y.? Magic Mushroom Powder is now available in cute tins at Whole Foods Market stores in the chain's NorCal Region (which also covers Reno, Nevada) and Northeast Region (including stores in New York, Western Connecticut, and all New Jersey stores except Marlton, Cherry Hill, and Princeton). My Magic Mushroom Powder has been selling out super-quickly, though, so call your local store before visiting to make sure they still have some left at the butcher counter!

(Psst! Magic Mushroom Powder will be available in ALL Whole Foods Market stores in January! Look for the tins on the butcher counter starting in the New Year!)

NOM NOM PALEO BASEBALL CAPS

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You may have seen the boys rockin' cool Nom Nom Paleo baseball caps on our Ready or Not! book tour and wondered, how can I get one? Well, at long last, you can FINALLY order 'em here on our website! This classic snapback baseball cap, which features a structured wool blend and plastic snapback closure, puts an embroidered image of my FACE on your FOREHEAD. There is simply no better way to show off your inner Nomster, people.

You can get it in three different color combos: yellow/black, red/ black, or red/white/black!

NOM NOM PALEO VINYL ACTION FIGURE

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I will do whatever it takes to help you eat real, nourishing, nomtastic foods—even if it means miniaturizing myself so I can cheer you on in the kitchen. Featuring 3 points of articulation, Mini-Michelle stands 3.5 inches tall and comes equipped with four accessories (and a sunny smile, too!). 

Buy a Mini Michelle here!

Okay, enough about Nom Nom Paleo stuff. Let's talk about gift ideas that DON'T have my face plastered on 'em!

INSTANT POTS

I've been such an ardent fan and vocal cheerleader for Instant Pot that many people assume I'm some sort of paid spokesperson for the brand. But guess what? I'm not. I just love using Instant Pots to make delicious, Paleo-friendly recipes with no fuss or muss—and I want everyone else to discover the magic of this appliance, too.

To be honest, even though Instant Pots are multi-use cookers (meaning they can handle everything from slow cooking to rice making), the electric pressure cooker function is my favorite, and the one I primarily use. But what an electric pressure cooker it is! Seriously: The Instant Pot will change your life and streamline the process of getting tasty hot food in your craw.

I'm always asked to recommend my favorite Instant Pot models, so here they are:

Instant Pot IP-DUO Plus: New for 2017, this 9-in-1 6-quart multi-use cooker gives you a lot of bang for the buck. I used to recommend the IP-DUO 7-in-1 cooker as the best one of the lot, but this updated version is even better. Users provided tons of great feedback about how Instant Pot could enhance the older version, like adding a max-fill line in the insert, changing the button labeled "Manual" to "Pressure Cook," and cramming a bunch of new features into the gadget. Instant Pot clearly listened, and incorporated all of these improvements into the IP-DUO Plus. Get one from Amazon here!

Instant Pot Ultra: This one's my favorite—it wins by a nose over the IP-DUO Plus. Why? Because it's more sleek looking, has a central dial with turn-and-press functionality, a cooking progress indicator, and a steam release reset button (to appease those of you who are skittish about the escaping steam when you manually release pressure). The dial may be a bit confusing for those who prefer buttons, but it allows for greater customization and precision. Get one from Amazon here!

I'll be sure to let you know whenever these babies are on sale, and I always update my Instant Pot Deals page with the latest bargains. Oh, and don't forget to check out my ever-growing list of Instant Pot recipes!

HEDLEY & BENNETT APRONS

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Eagle-eyed Nomsters know that whenever I'm in the kitchen, I'm in a Hedley & Bennett apron.

I've loved these aprons for YEARS—ever since my chef sister bought me one for my birthday in 2013. My collection of Hedley & Bennett aprons has steadily grown over the past four years—I'm now up to eight—and I have no plans to stop. Buy one, and you'll see why: Each Hedley & Bennett apron is individually handcrafted and built to last, with top grade materials and meticulous fabrication. And best of all, they're gorgeous.

My fave new design is the (PRODUCT)RED apron. Not only is it in my favorite color, but 25% of the retail price from this product purchase will support (RED)'s efforts to fight AIDS through the Global Fund.

You can buy one from Amazon here!

CHEF'S CHOICE 15 TRIZOR XV EDGESELECT ELECTRIC KNIFE SHARPENER

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When my knives are sharp, cooking is faster and safer. I treated myself to this fancy home knife sharpener after I got tired of dropping my knives off at different knife sharpeners every few months to keep them in tip-top shape. It's the number one rated knife sharpener per the folks at Cook's Illustrated and I couldn't be happier with my purchase. All my knives (and my friends') are quickly sharpened in just a few minutes and we're back to slicing and dicing in no time at all!

Get one from Amazon here!

THE INSPIRALIZER

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You know all those zany vegetable noodles you've seen on Pinterest? You can easily make them at home with a spiralizer. There are tons of options on the market, and I've owned four different brands myself. Last year, I recommended two different models, but now one has come out on top: The Inspiralizer.

The Inspiralizer is an awesome tool created by Ali Maffucci, the spiralizing queen behind Inspiralized. If she's gonna invent a spiralizer, you know it's gotta be one of the best. I love that the blades are attached to the gadget, and you just twist the dial to change it. Plus, you can spiralize thinner vegetables because the central coring blade that keeps them in place has a narrower diameter than other spiralizers.  The one thing that kept me from recommending it wholeheartedly was that it wasn't dishwasher safe, but I discovered that I can plop it on the top rack! Haven't you been dying to make my Crispy Swoodles with Bacon?

Grab one from Amazon here!

LECTROFAN WHITE NOISE MAKER

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With all the travel I did this year for our Ready or Not! Book tour, one of the things I prioritized above all else was good sleep. Sleeping on the road can be tough, especially with all the time zone changes and resulting jetlag. Two things that I always travel with to ensure good sleep are my trusty eye mask and a portable white noise maker. I realized I needed a white noise maker when I stayed in big cities like NYC or Chicago and the constant traffic and honking would keep me up at night. After doing lots of research, I opted to buy the Lectrofan and it helped me get my zzz's on the road. (Yes, it's very compact and takes up very little space in my carry-on.) I liked it so much that I now keep it on my nightstand at home!

Grab one from Amazon here!

THERMAPEN  + THERMOPOP

What's so great about the Thermapen Mk4 instant-read thermometer? Well, it's lightning-fast, incredibly accurate, has an intelligent backlight and auto-rotating display, a motion-sensing sleep-and-wake mode, and it's super-cool looking. Plus, if you use it when cooking, you'll never mess up a pricey piece of grass-fed meat or pastured poultry ever again. Get one from ThermoWorks here!

The one caveat? It costs close to $100. Luckily, the Thermapen's mom and dad has squeezed out a more affordable younger sibling, the ThermoPop. This lollipop-lookalike is rated #1 by Cook's Illustrated and Serious Eats, so you don't need to worry your pretty little head about whether it works as well as its older sibling. Yeah, it's not quite as fast as the Thermapen (2-3 seconds for Thermapen, and 3-4 seconds for ThermoPop), but it's only $29. And as I've said before, if you're gonna cook meat or fish properly, you gotta invest in a great thermometer, so get one from ThermoWorks here!

BACK JACK MEDITATION CHAIRS

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I first encountered Back Jack chairs at the Paleo seminar I did at 1440 Multiversity, where some audience members—fresh from a morning yoga class, I assume—plopped down on the floor into these sturdy, portable meditation chairs. They're great for everything from zen practice to playing video games with your kids. Made in the U.S.A., Back Jacks come in an array of bright colors—I bought red ones, because I'm me—and are heavily padded for comfort.

Grab one from Amazon here!

LUNCHBOTS CLICKS SALAD CONTAINERS

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I love these all-stainless steel interior salad containers by my pals at LunchBots! They're totally leak-proof, durable, and dishwasher safe. However, I don't just store salad in them—I store all my leftovers in them 'cause I'm the Leftover Makeover Queen. One thing to note: when placing hot food in the container, allow the food to cool to room temperature before sealing the lid. Failing to do so may cause a strong vacuum to form, making the container difficult to open. If a vacuum does form, insert a butter knife between the lip of the container and the lid to allow air to escape. Easy peasy!

Get one from Amazon here!

(Psst! If you're looking for a great insulate container with all-stainless steel interior, get a LunchBots Thermal!)

MARSHALL ACTON BLUETOOTH SPEAKER

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Our family loves to listen to music together in the kitchen and when the kids are at school, I blast my favorite podcasts while I'm tinkering with recipes. The bluetooth speaker that we play all of our audio on is the Marshall Acton Bluetooth Speaker. It works great, and looks like a mini-version of the various amps that Owen has scattered around the living room for his electric bass and guitar!

Get one from Amazon here!

VIBRAM FUROSHIKI WRAP SHOES AND BOOTS

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I'm not a fashion plate and you'll never see me posting my #ootd on IG, but I do have a favorite minimalist shoe—my Vibram Furoshiki Wrap Shoes. These shoes are super comfy and they don't have the weirdo five fingers. You just wrap them around your feet, and they look like pretty presents. Just make sure you don't buy a knock-off by mistake! Get a pair from Amazon here!

(In the winter, I wear the cozy boot version. Buy a pair from Amazon here!)

SALT, FAT, ACID, HEAT

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This is my favorite new cookbook of the year (that wasn't written by me!).

Chef, teacher, and author Samin Nosrat has produced a groundbreaking cooking book—one packed with an amazing wealth of knowledge. Accompanied by charming illustrations by Wendy MacNaughton, Samin cheerfully teaches readers to use the four main elements of cooking—salt, fat, acid, and heat—to master cooking. This book is aimed at inspiring cooks to make confident decisions in the kitchen without relying on recipes. With Salt, Fat, Acid, Heat, you can whip up delicious meals at any time with any ingredients on hand.

This is a classic. Get it from Amazon here!

NAPTIME WITH JOEY

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This book brings me SO. MUCH. JOY. Do you follow @lauraiz on Instagram? When her adorable daughter, Joey, takes a nap, Laura dresses her up as mini pop culture icons—from Salt Bae to Barb from Stranger Things—and snaps a pic. It's off-the-charts cute. Just flipping through these photos on my phone instantly puts me in a sunny mood. Laura's first book, Naptime with Joey, is a compilation of these adorable photos—complete with the punniest captions.

Get it from Amazon here!

CRAZY RICH ASIANS TRILOGY 

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All my good friends know that I'm not much of a fiction reader. Cookbooks and gossip magazines are my jam, okay? Despite my aversion to fiction, this year I bought and quickly devoured all three books in Kevin Kwan's Crazy Rich Asians trilogy. These three books chronicle the intertwined lives of three super-insanely wealthy Chinese families, and they're packed with humor, gossip, and soap opera shenanigans. I haven't stayed up late reading a trilogy since I read The Tales of the City series in college, but these three books had me burning the midnight oil. In fact, I'm still moping about the fact that the trilogy has ended—but at least I have the Crazy Rich Asians motion picture to look forward to next summer! (Spoiler alert: One minor character in the books eats a Paleo diet. I gasped out loud when I read that part.)

Get the first book, Crazy Rich Asians here!

Get the sequel, China Rich Girlfriend here!

Get the final book in the series, Rich People Problems here!

Those are my picks for this year! Now that you've gotten your holiday shopping done, get off the couch and do something fun! (Or at least more fun than stampeding through your local big box store at midnight on Black Friday.)

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Tuesday, 21 November 2017

How to Form the Decisiveness Habit

By Leo Babauta

I've had several people ask me lately about what they can do about indecisiveness, and it made me realize that this is actually something I'm pretty good at: being decisive.

Making decisions can be difficult, especially when there's no clear choice. But being indecisive, when you're at the cusp of one of these tough decisions, can come at high costs:

  • Not taking action can cost you an opportunity, or cost money and time as you delay.
  • People waiting on you to make a decision can get frustrated.
  • You can feel stress about your indecisiveness, and stress about how you're making people wait.

People who are plagued with indecisiveness generally know they don't want to be that way, so I won't belabor the point. It's not fun, and I feel compassion for those who have this difficulty.

So how can we form the habit of being decisive instead?

It's about recognizing what's going on when you're stuck with a decision, as it's happening. And then deciding to go with a new set of habits around your decision-making.

Recognizing What's Going On

Why do we get stuck making decisions? It's one of our mind's most common habitual reactions around uncertainty.

Let's say we have a choice to make, about hiring Contractor A or Contractor B. It can be very tough, because we honestly don't know which one will perform better, is more trustworthy, or who might screw things up for us.

So we have a lot of uncertainty. Our minds don't like this uncertainty, so there are some things we might do to get away from it:

  • Do a bunch of research. This is one of the most common things we do when we feel uncertainty. We do an online search, read all about it, try to gain more certainty by gaining more information. There's nothing wrong with this — in fact, in this decision, it's probably a good idea — but it's still important to recognize that we're trying to get more certainty because we're feeling uncertainty. At the end, we might have more information, but there's still a lot of uncertainty.
  • Write out a pros and cons list. Or a cost-benefits analysis. Or some other kind of rational decision-making tool. I've made spreadsheets where I list different factors/criteria, then give a score for each one, and weight the factors so I can come up with an overall score. It was great. I still had uncertainty. These tools are helpful, but just recognize that they are a way to get away from uncertainty, and at the end, you'll still have uncertainty.
  • Ask a bunch of people about their opinion. Or read a bunch of reviews. Again, this is not a bad idea. Just recognize that at the end of the day, you'll still have uncertainty.
  • Put off the decision. This is the classic response to uncertainty — get away from the uncertainty, don't think about it, delay. This often comes after some of the above strategies. And it doesn't get you away from the uncertainty, because it stays with you, giving you stress.

These are some of the common ways we habitually deal with the uncertainty of a decision. But none of them solve the problem for us (even if the first few can be helpful tactics).

We are uncertain about:

  • What the best choice might be
  • Whether there will be negative consequences of the choice
  • Whether we'll look dumb to others if we make the wrong choice
  • Whether we'll feel dumb, or ripped off, and regret it for years to come
  • Whether we'll be OK if we make the wrong choice

This last bit is the real heart of the matter. There is no "right" choice, but we worry that if we make the wrong choice, things won't be OK. We might dream up disaster scenarios, and then get a lot of anxiety about those possibilities. But the truth is, for most choices, we'll be perfectly OK. Let's talk about how we might see that, and what new set of habits might be more helpful.

Creating a New Set of Habits

As we saw in the last section, we can't get rid of the uncertainty around making a decision. We can do everything we can to research, delay, come up with a decision-making system … and we'll still be unsure of what choice we should make. We'll still feel anxious about it.

So we might just learn to be OK with that uncertainty, and get into the habit of making decisive decisions.

Yes, there will likely be a cost to whatever choice we make. That's true if we make no choice as well — that's a choice, and it has costs. Over the long run, the cost of indecision is usually worse than the cost of making a wrong choice, because we stress out about the indecision for a long time. The stress doesn't make the choice easier, it doesn't make us happy, it affects our health, it affects our relationships.

Instead, let's just make a decision, and move on. Let go of the stress about whether it's the right choice (there's no such thing) and instead deal with whatever consequences we face. And learn to trust that we'll be OK.

Here's a possible set of habits around decision-making that will lead to greater decisiveness:

  1. Recognize that you're feeling uncertainty. As you start feeling your habitual indecisiveness, notice that you're feeling uncertainty , and that you're chomping at the bit to get away from it. You want to get some certainty, or failing that, put off making the decision. You're feeling some stress from this as well. The earlier you can recognize this, the better.
  2. Deal with the uncertainty with curiosity. Once you notice you're feeling uncertainty, drop from your head into your body — notice the physical sensations of uncertainty in your body. Where is it located, and what is the texture of the sensation? Often it's a tightness in the chest. Stay with this feeling for a moment or two, not worrying about the decision you have to make, but instead being curious about the physical feeling. Does it change? Does it move? Is it unbearable, or can you stay with it for a bit? Can you relax around the physical feeling?
  3. Get the info & evaluate as best you can. Now that you realize the uncertainty isn't something you need to run from, you can just make the best decision you're able to make. That might mean doing some research, gathering information, even asking for others' opinions if you have time. Don't let this delay your decision, but a bit of information doesn't hurt. Just don't procrastinate by trying to gather every single bit of info you can. Sometimes it's just 5 minutes of research, or a bit more for a bigger decision. Evaluate the costs and benefits — what are the possible costs of making the decision? Are the potential benefits worth it? In the worst-case scenario, is it the end of the world? Can you deal with these consequences? Again, don't take forever evaluating all of this, just give these things some consideration. Again, it could just be 5 minutes of weighing risks and benefits.
  4. Just dive in. Instead of staying at the edge of the water, wringing your hands and fretting about the uncertainty — dive in! You've already given it enough thought — make the decision, and take action. Pull the trigger. Let loose the bowstring. Get in the habit of saying, "Enough thinking, time for action!"
  5. Don't look back — deal with what comes up. Now that you've made the decision, get out of the habit of second-guessing yourself, worrying that you made the wrong decision. Just follow through with it, until you can see the consequences — both negative and positive. Cherish the positive consequences, and take the negative consequences in stride. It's no big deal — you can deal with it. It's like surfing: are you going to bemoan the fact that the wave didn't break exactly as you'd hoped, or are you just going to flow with the wave?
  6. See that you're OK. Whatever happens, ask yourself, "Am I OK?" The answer is almost invariably "Yes." With time, you'll see that this habit of decisiveness isn't so bad, that things generally turn out OK, and letting go of the worry is actually a relief.

That might seem like a lot of steps, but actually it's just recognizing the uncertainty, dropping into your body and staying with the feeling in curiosity, gathering info and making the best decision you can, and then taking action and dealing with what comes up. And seeing that in the end, everything is just fine.

How do you build the habit?

By keeping this habit at the forefront of your mind for a month. Noticing as often as you can when your old habit of indecisiveness comes up, and then putting this into action as best you can each time. Replace the old habit with the new one. With joy.

And in the end, notice that you're moving faster, you're learning to trust your gut, you're becoming more trustworthy to yourself and to others, you're learning that you can deal with whatever consequences come up. That's worth putting in some extra effort to form this new habit.



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Episode 378 – Dr. Jeff Stanley MD – Virta Health and Online Healthcare

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On this episode of the podcast we have guest Dr. Jeff Stanley MD. He is a physician with Virta Health, and utilizes continuous remote care and the ketogenic diet to reverse type 2 diabetes.

In this episode we talk about online healthcare, treating diabetes, monitoring and data, high lipid markers for some on ketogenic diets, and more.


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Website: https://www.virtahealth.com/
Twitter: @JeffStanleyMD

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Original Content: Episode 378 – Dr. Jeff Stanley MD – Virta Health and Online Healthcare

Monday, 20 November 2017

Spiralized Winter Veggie Gratin

Spiralized Winter Veggie Gratin is the perfect holiday side dish! Made with spiralized vegetable gratin is made with sweet potatoes, butternut squash, carrots, and parsnips and topped with a white sauce and Gruyere cheese.

Spiralized Winter Veggie Gratin is the perfect holiday gluten-free side dish! Made with spiralized vegetable gratin is made with sweet potatoes, butternut squash, carrots, and parsnips and topped with a white sauce and Gruyere cheese.

Spiralized Winter Veggie Gratin is the perfect holiday side dish! Made with spiralized vegetable gratin is made with sweet potatoes, butternut squash, carrots, and parsnips and topped with a white sauce and Gruyere cheese.

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Sunday, 19 November 2017

Skinnytaste Dinner Plan (Week 100)

Skinnytaste Dinner Plan (Week 100)

Skinnytaste Dinner Plan (Week 100).  Wow! Week 100!! Thanksgiving we always go to my Moms and everyone brings something. I am bringing a few sides, and looking forward to the leftovers!

Meal planning is a great way to get organized before heading to the supermarket to get ready for the week! My breakfast is usually something quick like eggs with fruit, a smoothie or avocado toast. We're a family of four, so if a recipe serves more, it's either packed up for everyone's lunch or eaten the next day as leftovers. If you would like to see some of the previous week's dinner plans, click here.

Skinnytaste Dinner Plan (Week 100)

Monday: Butternut Squash Risotto with salad
Tuesday: Turkey Chili Taco Soup
Wednesday: Asian Peanut Noodles with Chicken- Lightened Up
Thursday: Turkey at Moms! Sides: Makeover Spinach Gratin, Maple Soy Glazed Roasted Brussels Spouts and Butternut Squash with Bacon, Mom's Stuffing, Lightened Up
Friday: Leftovers: Leftover Turkey Harvest Cobb Salad
Saturday: Leftovers: Leftover Turkey and Sweet Potato Frittata
Sunday: Turkey Pot Pie Soup

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Original Content: Skinnytaste Dinner Plan (Week 100)

Makeover Spinach Gratin

This easy makeover Spinach Gratin is creamy and decadent, with a hint of nutmeg baked in the oven topped with melted cheese for a must at your Holiday table!

This easy makeover Spinach Gratin is creamy and decadent, with a hint of nutmeg baked in the oven topped with melted cheese for a must at your Holiday table!

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